5 Important Seduction Tips

There are five basic core steps to just about any seduction. These steps should be followed in order and none of them should be skipped if you are planning on getting laid by the woman you have chosen. Just like any instruction manual you will need to read over these until you are familiar with every aspect of the five steps and you can perform them well on your own.

The first aspect is to open the girl or the group. Next, you will want to build your social value to the girl so that she sees you for who you are and what you can give her. When your social value has been noticed, this is where you will screen and accept her. Now, that you have accepted her you can move to the fourth step which is isolating her from the group. This can be tricky for some guys but you need to do it in order to get what you want. Finally, you have to build comfort with the girl so that she will leave with you by the end of the night. You will want to go through these steps in order or things can turn drastically wrong for you.

Most guys will forget or just refuse to do one or more of the steps above, and when they do, they end up losing the girl. Even if they have done everything right they will still fumble the ball and end up going home alone at night. The following is an outline of each step and what can happen if you do not take it.

Skipping step 1– Not Opening

Not opening is a pretty simple concept as to why things don’t work out. If you don’t open, you are going to be sitting there all alone hoping a girl will come up to you and open. Waiting is nothing more than a waste of time and you need to get up and go for it. Even if they say no, you can move on to another girl.

Skipping step 2 - Not Building Social Value

One of the biggest mistakes guys make is that they go from the open to the comfort building stage without building any social value what so ever. This will end up with the two of you being nothing more than friends, and will ruin any chance you might have had getting sex. If that is all you are looking for, then by all means skip this step. But if you are a real man, you need to do this step right after you open. If you jump right in and get that comfort stage going, you will soon find that she may feel a connection but there is no attraction there. You will be there for her to talk to you, but not for anything else.

For instance, if you were lost in a strange city and had no idea how to get back to the highway and, let’s say a homeless man approaches you, and starts giving you directions without you asking him. He may seem nice but he has no social value to you what so ever. You aren’t going to thank him by taking him along with you, introducing him to your family, and allowing him to sleep on your couch for the next few days. You know that he is probably only being nice so that you will give him some money. Women get the same feeling with guys that skip over the social value step and move right into the comfort building step. She will think that you have ulterior motives, and she won’t be willing to trust you enough to see what those motives turn out to be.

If a girl does respond to the comfort building without social values, then you need to realize it’s not the comfort building that’s doing it. Instead, it’s the strong attraction of your sexual nonverbal clues that she is responding to. But most extremely beautiful women will not respond well to the comfort building aspect because of the sheer amount of guys that are trying to gain their attention. These guys are all trying to build comfort, and you need to build social value first to get them to even notice you are in the room.

Skipping step 3 - Not Screening and Accepting

Another mistake guys seem to make a lot is skipping the screening and accepting step. They will go straight from building social value to isolating the girl from her friends so that they can build the comfort level up. While most guys won’t see a problem with this, you have to realize that if you have too much social value and hers is too low, the mismatch is going to cause all kinds of problems. She is going to start to wonder why someone so cool and relaxed is even talking to her and, therein, lays the issue of ulterior motives again.

Another problem is when guys skip screening and acceptance. They go from building attraction and jump directly into isolating the girl and building comfort with her. Women that feel you have an ulterior motive in talking to her will sense that you have chosen her over any of her friends just so you can sleep with her. They also think, once you have slept with her, that you will dump her because she doesn’t understand why you picked her out of the crowd. This will cause her to resist anything you try to do with her and makes your night a long and endless battle with you not winning.

This is why accepting her is so important. You are giving her the hints that she needs to feel welcomed and wanted by you. Once she feels accepted, there begins to form a reason as to why you chose her, and it’s not just sex. She will begin to feel that her social value is the same as yours and she will be more accepting of your attention because deep inside she feels that she has earned the right to be with you.

Skipping step 4 - Not Isolating

If you don’t isolate the girl from the group of friends she is with, but instead try to build comfort while they are all around you, you will end up running into numerous roadblocks. These roadblocks end up being all of her friends. They will try to stop you from building comfort with the girl you have accepted, and this can be quite a headache for anyone trying to seduce a woman.

You have to understand that building comfort is a one on one process and you shouldn’t be even attempting it around her friends. You have to be completely focused on the woman you are trying to build comfort with, and having her friends around will divide that attention and distract you. If you do a half assed job in this stage, you can forget about going home with her or having her come home with you. Her friends will also start to feel a bit jealous that you are no longer interested in them and they will try everything they can to get you back. If they start to feel they are no longer the center of attention, they will most likely pull her away and leave you there alone. This is why you need to isolate the girl before trying to build comfort with her.

Skipping step 5 - Not Building Comfort

If you are not going to isolate the girl after making social value so that you can build comfort, you are going to lose. But forgetting to build comfort is going to get you absolutely nothing at all. If you skip this step and go from social value to isolation and straight to the sex at your place aspect, you are going to lose all acceptance of being anything other than a fun guy to hang out with. Although she might be attracted to you, there is no real connection, and she won’t feel the same about you without it.

Even if she was attracted and still slept with you, without the comfort she would probably feel guilty about letting herself get pulled in like that. Comfort and a sense of connection is a must for women to be happy about sleeping with you. If you don’t have that, you probably won’t be having sex, either. This is why it is so important to build comfort and a personal connection with her. If you don’t, she might just think you are a player and all you are interested in is sex.

This doesn’t mean that you won’t get laid if you don’t follow these steps. On the contrary, you might get women left and right wanting to sleep with you, but will it be worth it in the long run? That is the key question you need to be asking yourself. While you can skip some steps, like going right to comfort building with the more socially valuable girls, they might just think that you are a nice guy and leave it at that. If you skip the screening and acceptance step and go straight to the comforting aspect, you run the risk of your social values not being in tune. She will feel that she hasn’t earned your respect yet, and wonder why you are even talking to her.

In fact, if you skip any of these steps, you will do so at your own peril. You may have some success with some girls some of the time, but if you are looking for success with every girl every time you open, then following these steps in order is a must. You may not have to spend all that much time on any one step, though. You could end up speeding through a couple of them right from the start, and that is always a good thing. You may only have to spend a couple minutes on any one step before proceeding to the next one. Or you can drag each one out so that you can get the full thrill of the hunt. You might even find a girl or two that only needs to know your name before they are comfortable enough to have sex with you.

The main thing to remember is that it all takes a bit of practice and some time on your part to do things the right way. If you think that you can cheat the system by skipping through some steps, go ahead and try. You will soon find out that it’s not as easy as you think it is to cheat your way into bed. You need consistency and self-confidence in order to make it work out for you and her both.

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