The most important step in bridging a connection is to induce positive emotions. If you attempt to bridge a connection through common interests or similar life experience without evoking these positive emotions you will simply be thought of as someone to talk to within the range of the time the conversation takes to expire.

When learning how to talk to girls, the important things to remember when talking to women beyond fluff talk and try to connect on a more personal level is to allow her to speak about the things she is passionate about and probe deeper into her experiences and interests and try to see things from her perspective rather than be all to eager to nod and smile looking for an opening to talk about yourself. For instance if she is passionate about travelling find out WHY she is passionate about travelling, why is it important to HER how has she developed from her experience what was she like before these experiences, has it changed her perspective and most importantly how did she FEEL during her experience. Once she is in the groove of talking about something she is passionate about and her emotions are heightened you can then talk about how your experiences relates to her. Not only will she be interested as you have common interests but because she has already divulged so much information you will be able to know on which points you could best connect with her and evoke those emotions in her that the two of you are compatible.

Even in shallow, superficial conversation women drop nuggets of information that most guys don't even hear or choose to ignore. For example a girl may say: "I grew up in Vancouver, but moved here to study/work". Some guys would just say "Oh ok" then move onto the next point in an attempt to get as much information out of her as they can and call it a conversation - while it may be conversation, It's hardly a deep, meaningful or memorable conversation, instead it is pointless, boring and tedious. From that little nugget of information she's given you could find out a lot on a more intimate level such as; How she felt when she first got here, what was life like in Vancouver, do her family still live there? (Could branch off to talk about her loved ones) You could then say how close you are to your family or how goal orientated you are as well - This shows a compatibility in values and also compliments her on a deeper level beyond her looks as you've told her you are as goal orientated as she is.

Getting to know someone like this puts you in the position where she is comfortable with you and will feel like "She's known you for years". This is certainly good when you are looking to get into a relationship.

Untill next time,

Eros