How to talk to a girl

Connecting with a Woman

All women need to feel intimately connected to the man they are in a relationship with. This makes guys try to form that connection with women immediately. They approach women in all sorts of locations and start trying to get that deep connection instantly. This rarely, if ever, works and the guys walk away disgruntled and wondering where they messed up. They messed up by trying to form this intimate connection TOO QUICKLY. Yes, connecting with a woman has to happen but not the first second you talk to her. If you try to accomplish this too fast, you will crash and burn every time.

You may wonder why this happens. The answer is easy: You don’t have enough Social Value to her yet. If you dive headfirst immediately into Bond and Connection, or B&C, techniques without building any Social Value first, you will just seem like all other men.

Step One: Create Social Value

The first step you need to take is to create a Social Value to the woman. You can do this through:

* Social proof – This happens when she spots other hot girls talking to you.

* Nonverbal Sexual Cues – These are things such as eye contact, strong body language and a good voice.

* Blowing off social pressure – This is done by walking up to a woman while ignoring everyone else. You come off as extremely confident.

* Your appearance – This is the way you are groomed and dressed.

* Displaying value indirectly – You can accomplish this by getting her friends to like you, telling entertaining stories and other attention getting ways.

* Removing yourself – You do this by ignoring her in front of her friends.

* Screening her – Make her earn your attention.

When you have placed yourself in her group of friends, have created social value, screened and accepted her, she should now be showing signs of interest. This is done through smiling at you, touching you, trying to start conversations with you, and other things. When you know that she likes you, that is the time to start connecting with her.

Step Two: Draw Her Away from Her Friends

When she starts showing an interest, you are going to want to remove her from her friends. In the beginning, it was important to make all her friends like you so that you could establish your Social Value, but now that you have it, her friends can actually hinder the process. If this is going to work, you have to get the woman ALONE and have some one on one conversation.

It’s simple to get her away from her friends. The first thing you do is tell her that you have the coolest thing you want to show her. Of course, she will be curious as to what it is. This is when you think of a reason that you can’t show her right there. She’ll probably be ready to leave with you to see this cool thing but you can’t take her until you have dealt with her group of friends. Just tell them that you are going to borrow her for a bit and off you go. If you have already showed Social Value to her friends, they most likely won’t object.

Step Three: Creating Bond and Connection

Once you have separated her from the friends, take her hand and lead her to a quieter part of the club or party or wherever. This is your chance to build that intimate bond and connection with her. It will work now because you have Social Value, she likes you and has been putting out signs of interest, and she knows that you like her, too.

It’s your chance now to show her that you are not only interesting but you are also REAL. You are going to SIT DOWN with her and get rid of your social value creation techniques. Now, you are going to show her that you are a normal guy and are about to show her a little of your inner soul. When you have her isolated with you and sitting down, talking, change your Nonverbal Sexual Cues. Use the energy that comes from sharing such deep intimacy with her. Pretend that you have known this woman for a long time and that she is your girlfriend already. Imagine an energy running between the two of you, sort of like electricity. Start using your bedroom eyes, close up smiles, deep eye contact, slow breathing and husky voice.

Bond and Connection (B&C) Routines

Now, it’s time to pull out your Bond and Connection (B&C) Routines. These are some basic ones:

* Find out her values: Ask questions that help you understand what her core values are. Ask her what makes her happy. When she answers, ask her what about it makes her feel happy. And take it from there. Hold her hands and say how great it is when someone understands you so well. Follow that up with a sincere compliment.

* Build on that wonderful connection: Talk to her about how amazing it is that the two of you met. Discuss destiny and what an intense connection you feel to her, and how it is so rare and difficult to find. Tell her to give the connection a color, and visualize it moving over both of you.

* Phony Club: Tell her how you feel that club gaming is phony and that you can really open up to her. Talk about how you feel you can be yourself with her and that you don’t have to pretend with her like you do with other women.

* Share an intimate story: Have a story prepared that talks about some intimate experience that you “don’t usually share with women.” It can be the death of your puppy and how emotionally you were affected. It should be something about YOU that shows you have a sensitive side.

Keep talking and strengthening your bond and connection with this woman for at least 20 minutes before you try to her phone number, ask her out, or get her to leave the club with you.

In Summary:

You should have learned by now that you cannot go right into a Bond and Connection routine immediately with a woman. Rather, follow the steps of building Social Value for yourself, separate her from her friends when she shows signs of interest, and sit down with her to build that deep connection. If you follow the steps presented here, you will vastly increase your chances of getting the hottest girls to notice you.

Now, where you do see yourself in 10 years? Will you be stuck in a relationship with someone you simply settled for or will you be alone? Maybe you will be looking back on your life filled with regrets. As life is so short, you should make all the changes now while you still can to find the woman and life you want before it is too late.

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