Lets switch roles here for a second. I want you to visualise yourself as a sexy woman; Super hot; long legs, long sweet-smelling sleek hair, slender hips, a bubble butt, plump tits and a beautiful face. You get guys stopping and staring at you and you turn heads wherever you go. What is the first thing you expect from a guy who approaches you? That's right, a compliment! Everyone compliments you within minutes of conversation. Guys at bars can't wait to compliment you... Infact you've probably been complimented all your life. BORING!

Complimenting a woman early on, especially on her looks alone screams "Easy". Why would a woman see a guy who has already thrown himself at her by showering her with compliments a challenge? They wouldn't. If you go on these dating sites or social networking sites like Facebook, Myspace, etc. There are literally dozens, sometimes HUNDREDS of comments left by guys leaving the most shameless comments like "Wow babe you are lookin so sexy, you are the reason men fall in love xxx". That would make ME cringe if I received a message like that from a woman, even if she was attractive I would think she is a few fries short of a happy meal (not all right in the head).

So do not compliment a woman on her physical appearance, especially if she's hot. It inflates her ego but does nothing for creating attraction. Putting her on a pedastal, showing her you're shallow, easy and unoriginal will kill all hopes of you seducing her. It's always best if you make her EARN compliments through getting her to validate herself and prove her worth by subtely re-framing conversational topics with her to get her to go that extra mile to impress you. You then reward her with small, indirect compliments about her character and NEVER about her appearance when it comes to approaching.

I do however believe that complimenting her on making her an effort when she obviously has on dates is polite and respectful in a way a gentleman would act. For instance; If it looks like the dress or shoes she's wearing are new or it appears she has taken the time to do her hair then by all means say "I like you're dress sense" or "Your shoes look good with your outfit" or "I like your hair like that" - By using compliments like these, you're not only indirectly complimenting her character by saying she has a good sense of style, but you also make yourself an authority of what looks good by giving her your approval. If, on the other hand you were to say "That dress is nice" or "Those shoes are good" It's a lot less effective as a compliment as she already knows the dress is nice, that's why she bought it and you did nothing to make her feel good about herself by complimenting her sense of style (which is important to women), a half-assed compliment is obvious and won't make you seem like any more of a genuine guy.

So rule of thumb: Never pick up a girl with a compliment and use compliments you do give effectively

Until next time,

Eros