How to approach a girl

Learn to get Past Approach Anxiety

It is possible to move past your approach anxiety to be the confident and outgoing man you were meant to be and know how to approach a girl like an alpha male.

The biggest thing that keeps you from having the relationships of love and sex with women that you crave is the fear of approaching a girl in the first place. If you can’t move past this fear, you’ll most likely be lonely for a very long time to come.

When I first started, I had no idea how to talk to a girl or how to get phone numbers and ask them out, I was incredibly anxious and nervous. I would stand in bars all night with my friends just trying to drink enough to build my courage up. At the time, I didn’t realize that I had a serious case of approach anxiety.

Even if I got up the courage to talk to a a girl, what was I going to say after Hello? Then I worried if she would shoot me down in front of people. What would people say and think afterward? I hated feeling that way. I would see women everywhere that I wanted to approach but I could never kick that anxiety.

Gradually, I started to understand that my approach anxiety was keeping me from getting a girlfriend as well as negatively affecting my social life. When I attended parties, I stuck with my friends so that no one would reject me.

It felt like everyone was watching everything I did, and if I messed up, there would be laughing behind my back. Then it occurred to me that no one really paid much attention to what I was doing because they were mostly worried about what THEY were doing.

Now the thing is this:

If you decide to approach a girl, the majority of people watching will assume you know her, or that she’s your girlfriend. The guys will be thinking how lucky you are and wishing they could be just like you.

As liberating and eye-opening as that bit of information is, I know that it most likely won’t do a lot to fix your approach anxiety. You most likely want to know what IS going to help you. Knowing how to approach a girl is just a small part of the puzzle when it comes to moving past approach anxiety. Other things you need to know are:

* How to have true steady confidence.

* How to begin and continue interesting and fun chats.

* How to get an attraction going immediately.

* How to move things along easily to getting a phone number, a date, kissing and sex.

These are the things you must have to get the results you want with women. If you don’t have them, the majority of your approaches will fail. This failure will just make the anxiety worse.

When I found those techniques I just referred to, along with a lot of others, I was able to rid myself of the approach anxiety pretty quickly. All it took was about a month and I was able to walk around sporting my total self-confidence.

Now, when a woman attracts me, there is never a hint of approach anxiety. I get a much better feeling now when I approach a new woman these days. It’s simple and stress free because I know what I am doing and I know what the result will be. I now know how to talk to a girl and what to say, when to say it and what to listen for.

When it comes to creating our own reality, expectations are of the utmost importance. This is true whether it’s because you turn your thoughts into reality or you just accept that what you EXPECT to happen will be.

Therefore, you can see that confidence gives you what you need to succeed. In addition, rather than being just another face in the crowd, you can become unique and stand out from that crowd. You can do this because you have no fear of any personal flaws. However, if you allow them to, negative thoughts can destroy you. Whether you are doing it subconsciously or consciously, if you are harboring negative thoughts, you are allowing it to grow into the most important thing in your life. This kind of thinking brings on situations that just MIGHT end disastrously because you giving those thoughts credence and room to grow.

What you need to be thinking instead of worrying about whether some woman will laugh in your face or not, is what can you learn from it if she does do that? In situations that involve women, so many things can, and do, go wrong. Now, suppose she does blow you off or even insult you. What YOU need to do is come back with something witty and cool, showing that you have enough confidence to withstand her rudeness. It makes you look like a man who is a leader and not afraid of the world, but rather is comfortable with himself. Confidence makes you look sexy.

Confidence may not be something you are born with but it can be learned and turned into the best habit you will ever engage in. To gain this confidence, and keep it, you need to control your negative thinking. In order to do this, you have to catch yourself when you start thinking in a negative way. Picture yourself as an observer in your head. Whenever you think something negative about yourself, stop and ask yourself why.

Don’t try to rationalize your flaws. There will be times that you DID do something that deserves negative thinking. However, instead of flogging yourself over it, view it as a learning experience. Recognize that you are a work in progress and that everyone makes mistakes at times. Just resolve to improve things the next time around. When you keep telling yourself how bad you suck, it will only make matters worse. Oh, and you will bore women to tears with that kind of talk.

If those negative thoughts start swirling in your head, stop them immediately. So what if you get rejected? Stop worrying about the things you can’t change and focus on what you CAN change.

You don’t want to just get rid of the negativity. You also want to nurture some positivity. In order to help you on that path, try this exercise:

Consider that there is only one thing standing between you and the women you want. That one thing is your belief, or lack of it. In believing that you can get the girls you want, you will make that happen. Of course, if you continue to believe negatively, you will keep missing out.

Don’t expect miracles overnight. Building up your confidence will take time but once you have crossed one threshold, you can simply move to the next one. As long you are making progress, your confidence will keep growing until you will not see any barrier that cannot be overcome. In truth, there ARE no barriers that cannot be overcome.

You can write your own script and make your own movie, starring you. The more this star quality takes hold, the more people will treat you this way. Best of all, women will flock to you like bees to nectar.

And I will show you how...

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