What Techniques Do I Use to Ask a Girl for a Date

Why do you think that is?  Although it is a question that is very frequently asked, most guys are intimidated to ask this question of a woman.

They feel that they are making themselves very vulnerable by doing so, because they are facing possible rejection by the woman. The simple solution is to STOP asking women for a date. The first thing to consider is that you are giving a clear signal to a woman that you have a romantic interest in her. In her thinking this will entail dates, a lot of kisses that may be awkward, some sex and it will end just as the others did before.

The woman will play out the sequence of events in her mind and will decide not to even start the process. When you ask a woman out, she then has to decide if she is even attracted to you in the first place, before she will make that step.

She now must decide how much interest she really has in you. Although she does not want to mislead a man, at the same time she cannot tell if a possible romantic connection can be developed. She may say yes to a date so that she can explore her interest in the possible relationship. That is similar to test driving a new car. The woman is looking to experience the car to decide if it will be a good fit for her.

To approach a woman for a date right away before she has a chance to get a feel for you, will come across to her as though you are forcing her into a relationship before she is ready to take that step, and she may decline even though she is still uncertain. Women do not feel immediately attracted to you except if they are just concerned with your looks.

To only depend on your sex appeal or good looks to win the woman you want in your life, is to depend on luck. You can use a better method to attract the woman you want. You will need to slow down. Exercise patience.

A big advantage of stopping your usual method of asking women out is,  you will never get rejected. Consider which of the following would most interest a woman:

a. taking a woman to a movie or a dinner date. This is not original and sends her the message that she will need to think of you in a romantic way, so she feels pressured and may have to handle attempts to kiss her at the end of the date.

That could be a little scary!

b. an opportunity to meet somewhere to have a little  fun without any pressure attached.

Which do you feel sounds better?

If you are considering the first option, think of the one that will feel more comfortable to the woman. Can you now see the advantage of the second option?

I am sure that you can. It may seem that the second option may not be in you favor, but the real point of this exercise is to attract the woman to you.

You will need to work on getting her whatever she wants, not on giving you what you desire. An example may make it easier to understand. How easily would you invest $20,000 of your own money into stocks you never knew existed before? It is not going to happen! You will need to get to know something about the company, and get the details about its operations.

Even after that, you may make just a small investment, say a few hundred dollars.

That is the same position she finds herself in - she could be about to risk a lot without any promise of good returns.

As the saying goes "You will get what you want in life to the extent that you help others get what they want." By choosing the second you will be providing some mystery regarding  your intentions, which is what women want.

Keep in mind the equation that Passion = Hope + doubt.

At this point you are realizing that should  invite  her to spend a  smaller investment of her time with you; you now need to know exactly how to go about that. It is really quite easy. In a situation where you just met the woman on the street, you may suggest spending a few moments over tea or coffee a local shop. Show her you can be a fun person and build some rapport with her.

If you succeed in showing a fun laid-back personality, then the rest would follow a little later. If there is no time to meet for coffee, then you could ask for her email address or phone number.

Even if she turns you down for coffee, she may still be very willing to give you her email address and may even write it down herself for you. If you sense hesitation in her, she may be thinking of you as a stranger, so you may tease her a little in order to reassure her.

Yes teasing her will work.

HER: I am sorry, but I make it a habit not to give  my number to anyone.

YOU: Do not worry, I only plan to blast a hundred messages to your machine. Go ahead and write it down for me.

This may even make her feel somewhat silly for doubting your character and integrity.

By teasing her she may temporarily forget any trust issues she has. Give her a paper and pen and continue making eye contact. Wait a few moments. Quite often she will write it down for you. When she is trying to decide  if you are a wimp or a confident person, there may be a long silence and you will have to be prepared to wait out that silence.

Do not start to convince herwhy  she should feel comfortable with you having her information, if you do you would have lost.

Try to act as though there is nothing else for her to do but give you her information,  she may  do exactly that. After you have her information, follow up and invite her again out for tea or coffee to complete the original invitation.

With such a low investment, made without pushiness or romantic overtones, she will not have to be concerned about where it will all lead.

How to Keep a Gorgeous Woman Interested

When a man is out with a woman, he is going to be on his best behavior. At the very least, he will be on his better behavior. He will be trying to talk and act in ways that will keep her attention. Now, if the woman is a gorgeous woman, he will not only be trying to keep her attention on him, but he will also be trying to impress her. He will do all of the things that other men have tried with her before. He may think he is being different from the rest, but men are creatures of habit. They do not like stepping out of their comfort zone, particularly when it comes to women. They have a pattern of behavior that they exhibit when it comes to trying to attract and impress a beautiful woman.

When a man is with a beautiful woman, he is going to be much more nervous than if the woman was more on the average side. A man will most likely be talking too much, squirming around, looking anywhere but directly at her, and just basically making both of them uncomfortable.  He will have decided on some questions to ask her before he even left his house. He will think he is being clever and inquisitive. But she does not want to be asked about basic information, such as her age and where she lives. She wants to get to know him and she is hoping he wants to get to know her. She will grow bored with the dull small talk and eventually, shut down. That is it. She will finish the date (if it is really bad, she will make an excuse to leave early) and then cross him off her list of potential partners.

Not only will he be asking her too many questions and making her feel as if the conversation is actually a cross examination, he will be spending too much money. Yes, there will be food and drinks, galore, at their table. He will keep telling her to get what she wants, money is not an object. Until, again, she shuts down. She does not care what he can buy for her right now. She is beautiful; she gets what she wants anyway. The man’s tactics are going to fail miserably because she will decide that he is trying too hard. That is a no-no with a gorgeous woman. She is just trying to find a decent guy that can interest and excite her. She has plenty of “nice” guys in her life already. They are only friends. A man has to be extra careful when dealing with a gorgeous woman so that he does not enter the dreaded “friend” status.

The best way to capture and keep the attention of a gorgeous woman is to be different. Do not just say that you are going to be different from the others, only to wind up falling right back in to the same old behavior patterns. If a man wants to keep her interested, he has to stand out from the rest. He has to be different and unique. This does not mean he needs to be a freak. He just has to find ways to behave that are different than what she is used to seeing. Instead of talking her ear off with pointless questions, try a little quiet time. A man needs to distance himself just a bit, enjoy his meal or his drink, and make her see that he is not bending over backwards to impress her. She will be intrigued by his unexpected behavior.

By keeping a bit of distance, a man is showing her that he is comfortable in his own skin. He is showing her that he does not need to impress her or anyone else. He is here to have some good food, wine, and conversation. Yes, he is here to chat with her in a light and casual manner, but that is all. Behaving in such a way is going to make her that much more interested in what is going on in his head. She is used to having guys practically falling all over themselves to talk to her, help her, or buy her things. By taking a different approach, the man is not fitting the mold she is used to men fitting. She will be surprised at first, maybe even secretly offended. But a man needs to stand firm in keeping things casual and not showing too much interest. By the time the evening is over, she will be trying to impress him.

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How to get lucky on the first date

Going on a first date can be tricky, especially if you are looking for a woman who will kiss or even have sex on the first date. Getting these things can be nearly impossible if you do not have all the right information. By following a few simple tips, though, it is possible to have women become more attracted to you than ever before. In fact, these tips can have them calling you and looking for more all the time!

There are several tips and strategies that can help you learn how to approach women. It is important to learn and master this technique in order to get women to go out on dates with you. You must appear confident and collected, and you need to make women interested in you. Once you are able to get them interested, you should be able to get their phone numbers. When trying to meet new women, it is a good idea to get several different phone numbers. After you have their numbers, it is time to figure out how you're going to go on first dates with them. Call the ones you are most interested and make plans to take them out on a date as soon as possible.

The majority of first dates have a few things in common. Almost every first date is filled with awkward moments that have the potential to destroy a woman's interest in you, and there is always a lot of pressure to impress her. Conversations often end awkwardly, and both parties are left staring at each other not knowing what else to say or do. Sometimes the woman will take this as an opportunity to strike up a conversation on her own, but most of the time she feels awkward doing this. In some cases if the woman feels she needs to make conversation, she may even lose interest in you. In an effort to keep the conversation going, many men will make the mistake of telling the woman exactly how interested he is in her. He may even go on to talk about future plans. What most men don't know, however, is these conversations can be major turn-offs for women. They don't want to hear future plans on a first date. They want to learn more about you and your characteristics and attributes. They already know you are attracted to them or else you wouldn't have asked them on a date. Some men also shower women with too many compliments on a first date. It is acceptable to tell her that she looks nice, but going overboard on compliments is seldom a good idea.

Thanks to the number of tips available, dating is probably easier today than it has ever been. One of the simplest tips when it comes to securing a woman's interest on a first date is to put yourself in charge. The man should decide on the details of the date and lead the conversation throughout the night. He should let the woman know where the first date will take place, and he should lead interesting conversations. It is also important that the man know the right time to make the first move. If the man is able to make the woman feel comfortable by behaving confidently, adding humor to the conversation, and flirting appropriately, there is a good chance that he will be able to win the lady's affection. When you follow these simple tips, the evening will most likely end with at least a kiss. Sometimes they can even lead to sex on the first date or the beginning of a serious relationship.

Once you learn and master these simple tips and dating techniques, it is very likely that your love life will improve dramatically. You are likely to end up going on a date with any woman you want. By being in control and behaving the way a man should, you are also likely to end up getting exactly where you want with a woman on the very first date. These techniques will also allow you to meet and date a variety of different women whether you are looking for a serious relationship or something more casual. Try these tips for yourself to see how great dating can be!