Don't Be a Wussy

One of the first signs that you are pussy whipped is when you are suddenly falsely agreeable. If a man lacks backbone because heís fearful of upsetting his woman, he is teaching her that she can take full advantage of him anytime she chooses. Oddly enough, all that does is make her resent him because he is such a wussy. This resentment turns into loss of respect. However, if you take control of this relationship, you will make both of you much happier.

Let me show you what taking control does NOT mean:

* Being macho.

* Smacking a woman if she gets out of line.

* Abusing a woman emotionally.

* Criticizing a woman.

* Losing your temper and yelling at a woman.

Any of these things will also cause your woman to totally disrespect you. Rather, taking control means doing it without losing your self-control.

Do you want to be a woman's hero: Hereís how you can do that:

Stand up for Yourself

Set up the boundaries and the rules. Then stick to them. Donít hesitate to say no to her. For instance, if she asks for a key to your apartment, if you arenít ready for that, say so. If she wants to go to Europe and you want to go to Mexico on vacation, just tell her no.

Telling her no is different from complaining and whining. If you say no and whine at the same time, that means you are giving into what she wants. This, in turn, makes you appear pathetic. Just remember to never do something that feels wrong to you just to please your woman. Donít become a pushover to her whims. Now, you donít have to win ALL the time. Just make it at least equal.

Make Decisions

You need to be decisive and not wishy washy. Be in charge and take command. Say you want to have a picnic at the beach. Tell her to get ready because you are going to the beach for a picnic. If she asks you what shoes look better with a certain outfit, give her your opinion.

Many times, women just want to relax and know that you have everything under control. All you need to do is take the lead and surprise her to be decisive. By being unable to make a decision and take the lead, a woman will do it for you and will start ordering you around.

Women don't want to be in charge in a relationship, but neither do they want to be submissive. There is a balance in relationships and you need to find it.

Donít Always Ask Permission

It is not necessary to get her permission or approval anytime you want to do something. If you want to go out with your friends, go. You don't have to ask her if itís ok for you to change your clothing style. If you feel like going to beach instead of the movies, go to the beach. The list goes on and on. While it is respectful to tell her and get her thoughts on things, you need to stand up for what you want to do.

Donít Use Bribery

You donít have to bribe a woman to approve of something you want to do. Instead, you should be getting her support, love and approval without having to pay for it. If she starts to feel that you are so insecure that you must constantly buy her approval, she will also start to feel that you are weak.

This does not mean that you can't behave gentlemanly to her. You can still go shopping with her or buy her dinner. Just don't overdo it. Buy her something because you WANT to, not because you feel it will win her over.

Reward Her When She Deserves It

Even spoiled women display good behavior at times. Therefore, when she shows some good behavior, be sure that you reward her accordingly. If you start to reward good behavior and ignore bad behavior, you are encouraging her to behave better.

On the other hand, when she does something really nice for you, such as just giving you a hug, or baking you cookies, show her how much you love her for doing that. You need to reward her even for small behavior that is good. Tell her with words and show her with your actions how much that means to you. Soon, you will have her working hard to gather her rewards from you.

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The Importance of Good Body Language and Well-Groomed Appearance

What is it about a first impression?

Many people would assume that appearance is the most important thing in attracting a woman. The way someone looks is the first thing you notice, right? It all begins at the skin. It is to be hoped that you are not one of those people who still believe that.

You may remember that something much more important and equally immediate is a person's body language. Even if you are ugly enough to stop an 8 day clock, if you carry yourself the right way, you can overcome the way you look. However, appearance is still something that must be considered. It can determine "almost" or "alright". It can be responsible for a quick glance and a full double take. It can mean "ok" or "Yes, oh please god yes!" Lucky for most men, good looking does not mean you have to look like Johnny Depp, although that would not hurt.

Things You Need

You have all heard that cleanliness is next to Godliness. This is a very true statement in the eyes of most women. Keep yourself clean. Women tend to have a more developed sense of smell than men. While most people cannot smell themselves due to being accustomed to it, men will smell unpleasant to most women. A good deodorant is vital. Try some out first. Spray-on body deodorants are good at creating a pleasant smell.

Keep your teeth brushed and flossed. While this will keep your teeth healthy, it won't always keep your breath fresh. Since most of the odor coming from your mouth is from your tongue and the roof of your mouth, brush those parts as much as you do your teeth. Donít scrimp on the areas either. Brush them all. It may sound like a lot of work but there have been lots of women who really liked a guy but couldn't bring themselves to kiss him because of his offensive breath.

If you are a smoker, now is as good a time as any to quit. You may not think it is a big deal, but there are great many women who will just not date a smoker. It will also destroy any progress you made while brushing, age your skin, make your teeth stained, and make your fingers smell bad. Not all women will care but do you really want to give up the chance with all the women who DO care? Besides, you are not only risking a possible very painful death in about 30 years, but also the possibility of spending the night alone tonight. Think about it.

Something else that will help you improve your appearance is exercise. You don't have to be a body builder but being in decent shape greatly improves your odds with the women. Women like a guy who is solidly average better than fat, skinny or muscle-bound. If you can manage lean or hard, that's great. Just know that simply healthy works just as well.

Snacking is Good

It is better for your body if you can eat 5 small meals a day. Eating this way is much healthier than the concept of 3 meals a day, which was invented when people kept to factory schedules. Eating smaller, more frequent meals works to keep your metabolism working overtime. This type of eating fools the body into not storing fat for later use. If you are going to eat at night, be sure you eat for the last time at least 2 hours prior to sleeping.

Having said all of that, if you tend to be on the skinny side, reverse everything you just read. Sumo wrestlers consume 2 very large meals daily and then take a nap. So, if you canít seem to gain weight no matter how hard you try, give the Sumo diet a shot. Just eat healthy as in getting all of your servings of the food groups.

Another very important part of your appearance is your smile. If you do it often, you will make your appearance even more positive and friendly.

Do you clean up good?

When you are planning to go out and you arenít sure what to wear, remember the rule: When in doubt, dress up, not down. Therefore, if you show up in a nice shirt, slacks, and loafers, and everyone has on jeans, t-shirts and sneakers, you will stand out in a nice way.  Your style will be casual and, well, stylish.

Get rid of your sneakers when you are going out to try to land a woman. Believe or not, women judge a lot about a man just from his shoes, and to them, sneakers say you are still a "kid." On the other hand, if you are wearing dress shoes, it says you are classy. If your clothes speak in terms of money, that is even better. Although, money is not the deciding factor, it canít hurt your chances.

All of this is quite basic. Look after yourself and your body. Give it the respect it should have and women will notice. The bottom line is that you are conveying in a nonverbal way a state of BEING, not just of LOOKING.

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Body Language - Communication in Silence

Alpha Male Body language speaks volumes and to a woman the manner in which a man carries himself will influence her decision and reaction towards him, which means, she will either be attracted to him or not. Therefore, a man who exerts confidence in his demeanour will increase a great deal of attention from the opposite sex.

Understand your body language especially when dealing with women. If you are on a first date and looking to make an impression, being all nervous and edgy will most likely not get you a second date. Women prefer being on a date with a man who simulates confidence, it's rather unnerving for a woman to be out on a date with a man who is not only shy but has bad conversation skills, who is clearly uncomfortable, constantly shifting in his chair or fidgeting with the cutlery and even worse still when he is not audible enough when making an order.

These factors will influence what she thinks and feels about you and unfortunately she is bound to lose her attraction for you.

A man who understands his body language will know that whatever he does will not pass unnoticed. Therefore, simulating confidence and maintaining eye contact when on a date, assures the woman that the man is comfortable with himself. When a man takes a woman on his first date he should be relaxed and seated straight up on his chair. He should be confident when making an order and should be vocal enough to be heard by the waiter. During the conversation he should be attentive to what the woman is saying and should show interest in the conversation engaging her occasionally to give an opinion.

Smiling constantly during the entire date creates a light mood and it is always advisable to throw in a joke to make the conversation even more interesting, you will notice that the woman will also be more engaging because you have created the perfect atmosphere where she feels comfortable. The date is bound to go very smoothly if she enjoys your company and therefore it is likely that she will accept your offer of a second date.

Dating should not be dull and boring; it should be an exciting experience. If you realise that most women reject your offer of a second date, that means, you did not make a very good impression the first time and this should push you to make a few changes.

Evaluate yourself and have a self awareness of how you carry yourself. Ask your most trusted friends who you feel are honest with you to advise you on what to change so as to boost your self-confidence when with women. Assess your qualities and use them to your advantage. Different women are attracted to men with different qualities therefore you will always find at least one woman who will be attracted to you because she admires your qualities.

Physical attractiveness is always a plus point but not a necessity and usually you will find that men who are over-confident about attracting the opposite sex using their good looks have very poor manners and conversation skills. Regardless of your physical statue, understanding your body language will get you further ahead after your first date

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